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Since finding out I was pregnant, I haven’t been with anyone, I can’t even flirt with anyone. At first I thought it was because I still had feelings for my child’s father, and it may have. But now, I don’t want to be with anyone for the simple fact I have everything I want and need. I have a growing, healthy baby boy, an amazing support system, and all I ever wanted from the time I was little was to be a single mother, just because I didn’t want someone in my child’s life then disappear. Maybe one day when my sons born, and we are ready, someone with their life together whose on the same path I am, will show up. But I’m not looking any longer. I have my son and that’s the only man I need sharing my bed.

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I’ll never punish my daughter for saying no.

The first time it comes out of her mouth, I’ll smile gleefully. As she repeats “No! No! No!” I’ll laugh, overjoyed. At a young age, she’ll have mastered a wonderful skill. A skill I’m still trying to learn. I know I’ll have to teach her that she has to eat her vegetables, and she has to take a nap. But “No” is not wrong. It is not disobedience.

1. She will know her feelings are valid.
2. She will know that when I no longer guide her, she still has a right to refuse.

The first time a boy pulls her hair after she says no, and the teacher tells her “boys will be boys,” we will go to her together, and explain that my daughter’s body is not a public amenity. That boy isn’t teasing her because he likes her, he is harassing her because it is allowed. I will not reinforce that opinion. If my son can understand that “no means no” so can everyone else’s.

3. She owes no one her silence, her time, or her cooperation.

The first time she tells a teacher, “No, that is wrong,” and proceeds to correct his public school, biased rhetoric, I’ll revel in the fact that she knows her history; that she knows our history. The first time she tells me “No” with the purpose and authority that each adult is entitled, I will stop. I will apologize. I will listen.

4. She is entitled to her feelings and her space. I, even a a parent, have no right to violate them.
5. No one has a right to violate them.

The first time my mother questions why I won’t make her kiss my great aunt at Christmas, I’ll explain that her space isn’t mine to control. That she gains nothing but self doubt when she is forced into unwanted affection. I’ll explain that “no” is a complete sentence. When the rest of my family questions why she is not made to wear a dress to our reunion dinner. I will explain that her expression is her own. It provides no growth to force her into unnecessary and unwanted situation.

6. She is entitled to her expression.

When my daughter leaves my home, and learns that the world is not as open, caring, and supportive as her mother, she will be prepared. She will know that she can return if she wishes, that the real world can wait. She will not want to. She will not need to. I will have prepared her, as much as I can, for a world that will try to push her down at every turn.

7. She is her own person. She is complete as she is.

I will never punish my daughter for saying no. I want “No” to be a familiar friend. I never want her to feel that she cannot say it. She will know how to call on “No” whenever it is needed, or wanted.

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-Lessons I Will Teach, Because the World Will Not — Y.S. (via poetryinspiredbyyou)
"I don’t think people love me. They love versions of me I have spun for them, versions of me they have construed in their minds. The easy versions of me, the easy parts of me to love."
-(via sodadeer)

thetimetravelersguidetothegalaxy:

my blog is like this fucking grab bag except you never exactly know what you’re going to get in said bag

is it fandom???

is it feminist rants???

is it food???

who knows you could probably find a fucking crocodile in there

exhistur:

I wonder if anyone ever looks at me while I’m doing something and thinks I’m pretty. Because I do that all the time to people. 

notmysecret:

*aggressively cares about you but doesn’t want to be clingy about it*

7 days until I find out the sex of my baby

wataaaah:

Just a reminder that you’re whole without someone else. You are not a fraction. You’re a complete master piece all by yourself and you do not need anyone else to validate your existence.

ifyoucarryonthisway:

Do boys even get crushes on girls do boys even like girls do boys even feel things 

"I liked the way the sun felt on my back but I liked your chest on it a million times more."
-(bp)

itspartofmyprocess:

draumen:

flylikeabowtie:

sweetmotherofhandgrenades:

yumatsukomo:

twinkle twinkle little star

why is art so fuCKING HARD

#up above the world so high#i cant draw the OTHER EYE

twinkle twinkle little FUCK

dammit

what the-

I give up.

fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck
fuck fuck
fuck fuck
fuck fuck fuck

it got better

"You did not love me,
You just loved the fact that I was here for you.
You loved the attention I gave you,
You loved the fact that I would drop anything for you.
You did not love me, but god,
I loved you"
-(via kshma)